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Last week I addressed the subject of honor, using an excerpt from my book, Friendship With God – The Empowerment of Honor and Grace. I am going to continue on that same topic today and present another excerpt from my book. This book can be found on Amazon in Print, E-book, and audiobook.
Many believe that honor is absent of judgment, but this is not true. A justice system of good and evil requires a judgment, but true honor is found in the justice system of love. In honor there is judgment, but the ultimate judgment of honor is one of mercy towards another. Mercy ends the judgment of condemnation towards another and invites them to live in a relationship of grace.
Mercy is the beginning of every new day in a culture of honor. Mercy ends the past and opens the door to the future, but grace requires an ongoing willing relationship. Grace is the manifest presence of God in our lives. Grace is the substance of God’s life that gives us life and transforms us to be givers of life to our world. Grace is something we receive and give.
We cannot give someone grace unless they invite us into their lives. There is a different honor for those in relationship with us than for those who choose not to be in relationship with us. When someone treats us dishonorably, we still choose to embrace a culture of honor towards him or her. That honor, however, can only be one of mercy which does not condemn them for their actions. This is not releasing them from the consequences of their own actions. It is simply preventing us from entering negative consequences for our own actions.
Each person is responsible for his or her attitude and actions towards another. When someone’s actions are less than honorable the consequences are less than life-giving. If someone chooses to disconnect in their relationship with us, it is honorable to respect their decision and honor them by showing them mercy for any misgivings or misunderstandings they may have projected in our direction. To expect them to remain in relationship with us is less than honorable to their decision. Love says we must show them mercy but love also says we must allow them to experience any consequences for their own decision in the matter.
Honor is a respect for who someone is. If someone says they are not part of our lives our respect towards them must include a willingness to be separate from them in life. When someone separates from us in life, it doesn’t authorize us to judge them according to the flesh. Our judgment towards them must always be one of mercy. We must remain willing to accept whatever the future may hold for relationship, as God may bring about a healing and restoration of connection. That willingness for restoration begins with a willingness to accept that we are now separate. We must honor the decisions of others towards us in life.
Our love must remain intact amid separations, but respect for separations must include an open attitude for continued separation or reconnection through a testimony of grace. Grace enables us to see our need to change and empowers us to change. Without an acknowledgment for a need to change, there is no path to enter the chamber of grace. Acknowledging our need to change empowers us to ask for mercy. Mercy is a gift of love that grants us access to grace. Grace is the power of love that changes us, so we don’t remain in an error that led to our separation. Mercy justifies an entrance, but only an acknowledgment of the need for mercy can open the door for the power of grace to bring about change.
A culture of honor is a culture of truth, love, nobility, and recognition of others for who they are. Truth is based upon who and what God says we are, not upon our own perceptions that are often based upon our own deceptions. Love always begins with an attitude and judgment of mercy towards others, but also invites others to continue in a relationship of grace. Grace can only be given to someone who chooses to walk with us with a desire to see a testimony of life for what the future holds. It is freely offered to everyone, but only experienced by those who search for it and find it. Grace must be available for all who seek it, but grace must also be found. It is the testimony of relationship. [1]
Food For Thought,
Ted J. Hanson
[1] Ted J. Hanson, Friendship With God – The Empowerment of Honor and Grace, (Bellingham, WA: House of Bread Publishing, 2022), pp. 16-17.
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